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I glorify Allah the Majestic Legislator of all divine laws. I seek His salutations and benedictions on the final prophet Muhammad who was sent as the perfect example for mankind, may Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him, his family and all his companions. 

It is a common act seen across many cultures that women change their surname from father’s to their husband’s surname after marriage. This is widely practiced throughout the world and Muslims have also adopted it. Many are not aware that it is impermissible for a woman (after marriage to change her surname from her father's to that of her husband. Example, before marriage she was “Fatima maqsood Ali” and after marriage to Sajid Siddique, she changes to “Fatima Sajid Siddique” or just “Fatima Sajid”.

It is not permissible for a woman to take her husband’s name or his family name because that is attributing oneself to someone other than one’s father, and imitating the kuffaar from whom this custom was adopted.

Allah says in Surah Ahzaab, ayah 5:

ادْعُوهُمْ لِآبَائِهِمْ هُوَ أَقْسَطُ عِندَ اللَّهِ ۚ فَإِن لَّمْ تَعْلَمُوا آبَاءَهُمْ فَإِخْوَانُكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَمَوَالِيكُمْ 

Call them by (the names of) their fathers: that is juster in the sight of Allah. But if ye know not their father´s (names, call them) your Brothers in faith, or your maulas [al-Ahzaab 33:5]

There are some very stern warnings regarding this from Allah and his Prophet (pbuh). Read below:

“(وقال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلّم: مَنْ انْتَسَبَ إِلَى غَيْرِ أَبِيهِ .. فَعَلَيْهِ لَعْنَةُ اللَّهِ وَالْمَلائِكَةِ وَالنَّاسِ أَجْمَعِينَ (رواه ابن ماجة صحيح

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “Whoever calls himself by other than his father’s name (or attributes himself to someone other than his father), will be cursed by Allaah, the angels and all the people.” (Reported by Ibn Maajah, Book of punishments, 2707)

 Further more,

It was narrated that Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqaas and Abu Bakrah said: The Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) said: “Whoever claims after having become Muslim to belong to someone who is not his father, knowing that he is not his father, Paradise will be forbidden to him.”[Bukhaari 4072 and Muslim 63] 

A related hadith that supports this argument although referring to male:

روى البخاري (3508) ومسلم (61) عَنْ أَبِي ذَرٍّ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ : لَيْسَ مِنْ رَجُلٍ ادَّعَى لِغَيْرِ أَبِيهِ وَهُوَ يَعْلَمُهُ إِلَّا كَفَرَ وَمَنْ ادَّعَى قَوْمًا لَيْسَ لَهُ فِيهِمْ فَلْيَتَبَوَّأْ مَقْعَدَهُ مِنْ النَّارِ

Narrated from Abu Dharr (ra) that he heard the Prophet (pbuh) say: “Any man who knowingly attributes himself to someone other than his father is guilty of kufr. Whoever claims to belong to a people when he has nothing to do with them, let him take his place in Hell.” [Bukhari 3508 and Muslim 61]

It is not permitted for anyone to claim to belong to anyone other than his father. Imitating the kuffaar by dropping the wife’s surname and giving her the husband’s name is prohibited (haraam); it is also a form of falsehood, and humiliation of the woman. There is no blood tie between the husband and wife, so how can she take his surname (or name) as if she is part of the same lineage?

Moreover, she may get divorced, or her husband may die, and she may marry another man. Will she keep changing her surname every time she marries another man? Furthermore, there are rulings attached to her being named after her father, which have to do with inheritance, spending and who is a mahram,( father, brother, son and all such who are prohibited from marrying her) etc. Taking her husband’s surname overlooks all that.

The husband is named after his own father, and what does she have to do with the lineage of her husband’s father? This goes against common sense and true facts. The husband has nothing that makes him better than his wife so that she should take his surname, whilst he takes his father’s name.

In many cases it has been seen that the woman is not ready to change the surname and the husband forces her to do so. Who doesn’t love his or her own name given to us by our father?

Anyone who has done this must repent to Allaah and put it right by going back to her father’s name. Please revert back to your fathers lineage or fathers name!  Each one of us is accountable for our actions on the Day of Judgement! Don’t obey others to disobey Allah (even if it be your parents or your husband).

May Allah guide us to the right path! Ameen!

Allah knows best!




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